Coming to Grips with Online Dating Part V

 . . . continued from Coming to Grips with Online Dating Part IV

On Monday night, May 12, 2008, my best friend Beth and I chatted in my condo. At 9:00PM, Jake called.  He had just passed the Centerville, UT exit.  He “wondered” if he should stop by and see me on his way home from Spokane.

I looked at Beth.  Beth looked at me.  “Duh,” said Beth.

I said, “Yes.  Come by.”

Beth said that I stopped completing my sentences.  She said, “I’m leaving because you are irrational.” But then she parked her car in the parking lot and settled in to watch.  She had a clear view of the Bridge of Love.  Later, when I found out that Beth witnessed our first meeting, I thought, “How sweet.  Snipers make the best friends.”

I stood on The Bridge of Love facing west.  The lamps flickered.  A gentle breeze kept the air crisp, but comfortable.  Soon, I felt the bridge tremble.  I heard manly steps.  Then strong, masculine, hairy arms wrapped around me, and attached to the end of those powerful arms were thick, un-tapered man hands.  He whispered into my ear . . .

We stayed like that for a minute and then I turned around and kissed him – on the lips even!

The next night we went on our first date.  He came to work with me the day after that.   And here, in a nutshell, is our happy ever after:

Jake took and passed the Patent Bar.  I moved out of my beloved condo and into a crappy rental in Spokane.  I quit my wonderful job of eight years.  We got engaged June 8.  We bought a house July 16. Jake studied and took the Bar July 24-26.  We got married August 20, 2008.

On August 26, I started a new job.  Jake started a new job a few days later.  I got pregnant on election day.  

(The next morning, still asleep, I asked Jake, “How does it feel to be the most powerful man in the world?” 

He snuggled up to me and said, “Fabulous.”

Then I woke up.

“Oops," I said, "I thought you were Barack Obama.”)

In December our roof started leaking.  On January 27, 2009, I was put on bed rest.  May 15, I was laid off.  July 1, Jake was laid off.  July 31, we had a baby.  Then our water heater broke.  August 25, I sold my condo.  Jake got a new job, but wasn’t paid, so he quit.  Jake had nose surgery to fix his deviated septum.  Six weeks after my c-section, I had an appendectomy.  More job searching.  In March of 2010, we sold our house and moved in with my parents.  That same time, I found out about Jake's addiction.  June 25 we moved across the country, going from a four-bedroom house to a tiny two-bedroom apartment.  Jake started his new job July 6, 2010.  I got pregnant again.  And then, I had a miscarriage.  And then a few weeks later, as a belated miscarriage complication, I almost hemorrhaged to death and Jake got hit by a car on the very same day – September 22, 2010

So, to end this series of about Online Dating, where a typical profile might read, “I married a mechanical engineer / lawyer.  He is a sweet, funny man, who hates watching sports and loves folding laundry.  He bought a mini-van,” mine would have included the not-so-rosy details.  Living happily ever after isn’t so much about what happens to you, it’s about how you handle it.  And I can say that so far, I have lived happily ever after – even though our life isn’t perfect.  And I’m so excited to spend the rest of our imperfect lives together.